Join the Vet Mums community on Facebook for chat and support
Not just for mums! This page is for dad’s too. And there’s useful info if you’re taking a break from clinical practice whether on sabbatical, maternity/paternity leave, doing a PhD, or just travelling for a year this page has parenting resources, career break information, and return to work advice.
Keeping Up to Date: monthly ‘Need to Know’ newsletters for small animal, equine and farm practice; by vets, for vets. These brief summaries of new drugs, important changes in drugs licensing, treatment trends and emerging diseases were designed to smooth your transition back into practice. These have been moved to Vetsurgeon.org and Vetnurse.co.uk. To read more, click on the link to signup and receive them.
Mum’s the word – a series of Vet Mums articles for Veterinary Business Journal throughout 2018 discussing issues of work and parenting from conception to teenagers. Life stories, advice and information.
1) From conception to starting maternity leave.
RESOURCES AND LINKS:
BVA Guide on Maternity and Paternity workplace rights and obligations. There is also a very personal and honest blog on post-natal depression by Zoe Davies on the BVA blog pages: “[During therapy] it was identified that I had perfectionist tendencies so I learned coping mechanisms for managing my anxiety, including accepting that being ‘good’ was good enough”
Retirement planning think piece – in this important blog Alison Lambert, Onswitch, gives us sage advice to plan for out futures. As mums often working part time and shouldering most of the child-rearing responsibilities, our earnings will often be less than male counterparts. If we want financial independence in our twilight years, we need to think about this, take advise and start planning NOW.
BEVA’s Mumsvet has links to relevant employment law, blogs and podcasts from pregnancy to postpartum.
The Pregnant Vet – Carolyne Crowe, Veterinary coach and mentor, runs a series of webinars and workshops on working while pregnant, and returning to work, now as part of VDS training
Coping with miscarriage – vet and runner Nat Scroggie has written a very personal blog about how running helped her deal with personal tragedy.
Working Mums has some great resources and FAQs, not specifically vet related, but goes through legal rights for employers, employees, self-employed, mums, dads, shared parental leave…
Post-natal depression – it’s hard enough being mum, but the raging hormones, sleeplessness and stresses can sometimes lead to PND. NCT are launching the #HiddenHalf campaign as 50% of new mothers’ mental health problems don’t get picked up. You are not alone! Read more here. Or for a list of 5 online resources for coping with PND click here.
#BeKind to yourself when being mum; trying TOO hard can be detrimental, especially when it comes to difficult feeders. This personal account about PND was written by a Vet Mums member. Always remember #FedIsBest and remember to #BeKind to other mums, however they feed their babies.
Loneliness as a new mother? You are not alone (in feeling lonely). Especially having been part of a tight knit team in practice. Read this blog on loneliness in new mums. Or click here to join the Vet Mums Facebook group set up by a colleague of mine to chat to other vet mums.
Anxiety in parenting; it’s something that can fetter or even cripple us. The Butterfly Mother is a blog by a UK mum, and she’s created a series of Facebook Live chats talking through the origins, experiences and management of anxiety in parenthood.
Want to get fit again… with your baby/toddler? Mamas army was set up by a vet and mum to encourage mums and babies to get outside and get fit with options from buggy walks to tailored fitness programmes. I joined a local Buggy Bootcamp, set up by a mum of 4 and fitness fanatic, which provided me with strength and cardio training, as well as a great group of mums to exercise and socialise with – babes in tow.
Returning to work – resources for return to work are growing, both for mums and those taking a break from practice for other reasons. Mumsvet has a page of dedicated resources and links. IVC has now created a Vet Refresh programme to support vets and nurses returning to practice over a 3 month period, with webinars, a workshop day, and mentoring.
Veterinary Woman is a website which “aims is to create a community where veterinary women can share their experiences and to provide advice, information, support and encouragement to help women in veterinary practice achieve their personal and professional goals.”
Something for the dads: Great blog on some of the fears of fatherhood at Psychology Today: “This might be the most powerful fantasy of all — that men and fathers do not need our emotional concern, curiosity, or support. The more we can challenge this fantasy, examining our own assumptions and instead exploring the emotional realities of men’s transition to fatherhood, the better we can support our fathers”